Review: Pau Yuen Tong Balm

A while back, hubby came home with a little package of Pau Yuen Tong Balm. I didn't know what this stuff was, or what it was for; honestly, I wasn't very impressed with the package, or the quantity that had come with it (especially for the price).

Oh. My. God. Y'all! This stuff is amazing.

Let me tell you about this: a few hours before we have sex, hubby will put some of this (just a very tiny little bit) under the head of his cock. An hour later, he applies a little more. Then more an hour after that. From there, he's ready to go.

And go, and go, and go. Once I get him hard, he stays that way. This stuff gives him just the right amount of de-sensitization, along with some special oomph for a bit of extra stamina on top of it. Without any aids, hubby is usually good to go for at least 10–12 minutes of persistent action; apply the Tong Balm, though, and he's still rock-hard after 30 and sometimes 40 minutes of non-stop contact.

I don't know what's in this stuff—frankly, I don't really care. It hasn't caused him any trouble (though, as always, there's a risk for allergic reactions and other adverse side-effects, which anyone reading this review should take into consideration), and it doesn't have a distinct odor or taste—believe me, I would know! In fact, it seems to "linger" in his system, so that the next day he still has some remaining extra stamina even without re-application.

(One further note here: while my hubby hasn't tried this, one website recommended that re-application for several days in a row as instructed—which is 3–4 times at intervals before intercourse or other sexual activity—will build up an increase in stamina overall. I assume this means that, on the second day/night, hubby might last close to an hour, and on day three he would go longer!)

A couple of times, when I've felt especially randy, I encouraged hubby to put the Balm to use—my specific words on one occasion were, "I want you to wear me out in bed tonight." On these and other occasions, Tong Balm has given him the lasting power to do it; I'm exhausted (in the best ways) every time he uses this magic.

The little container that it comes in is very small, and you may at first wonder if you got a sample size for full price. Trust me, this will last a long, long time (no pun intended). We've had the one hubby bought for close to a year, and he hasn't even gone through half of it. For the money, it's one of the best investments we've ever made for our bedroom play.

I give Pau Yuen Tong Balm a whopping FIVE out of five "Os" with no complaints at all. Buy some today! (And if you like this review, check out all of My Reviews.)

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Review: Menage a Trois Strap-on Harness set

My hubby and I have been enjoying the Sportsheets Menage a Trois Harness (with Dildo) for a while now. Let me tell you about it.

This harness is a simple set of straps which join (with snaps) at several rings in the front and back. It is very adjustable, and while the straps are pretty thin (about a half-inch wide), they aren't uncomfortable. Once you slide it on (like a thong), you can tighten the straps on the sides so that it fits snugly around your hips.

The rings are designed to hold a dildo, like all harnesses. it holds one tightly, and when I wear it I'm able to get a good bit of control for aiming the dildo where I want it to go. As dildo harnesses (for women) go,  it doesn't offer the most control or comfort, but it's perfectly acceptable as it is.

Here's where the fun starts, though—it's not just for women! The way the rings are configured in the front, it can accept TWO, um, objects. This opens up a variety of options for dildo/harness play!

When my husband wears it, his dick fits nicely in the lower ring; the ring doubles as a cock ring, so it gives him a bit more stamina as well (which my hubby doesn't particularly need, but we both certainly enjoy the extended time). Then he fits a dildo into the upper hole, which rests against his waist/pelvis, just like it would on a woman. Now he can penetrate me in both holes at once!

Let me tell you, this is a really wonderful feeling. Both of us have fantasized about having a full, real-life menage à trois, but we have never acted on it because of the fear of how it would change (and potentially damage) our otherwise fulfilled relationship. With this harness, we can have the fun of a real three-way without the relational baggage. I love being filled up by my hubby this way.

We've tried it in several positions: with me on my back, the dildo in my slit, and him in my rear; on my knees with him in my puss and the dildo in the back-door; and with him on his back and me riding him cowgirl (or reverse cowgirl) style. All three are awesome! When hubby puts on this harness, I know for sure that I'm in for a wild, multiple-O event.

A couple of times, he has started with just the dildo, then gone to single- or double-penetration after I was good and worked up. This, too, is a great way to put the Menage a Trois to good use; it's like having one partner right after another. He's also positioned it so that the dildo rides roughly across my belly (and clit) while his cock is inside me.

We've also used this harness for some pegging, which hubby is always up for; it's not ideal for that, again because it doesn't give me as much control as I'd like (and, as fun as pegging is, I don't get much direct stimulation from it this way; we plan to remedy that soon, though, by trying out one of the "his and hers" harnesses—but that's a whole other post!). But it's fun sometimes to switch things up right away—using condoms, of course—by going from me poking him to him (double) poking me.

The dildo that comes with it is also pretty good: realistic in shape, and not too big or small for either of us. As with all dildos, your mileage may vary—but the good news is that the Menage a Trois harness can accept any standard-base dildo, so try whatever one you want. It also comes with a selection of rings to accommodate different size dildos and cocks.

Needless to say, we've had a lot of fun with the Menage a Trois harness. I highly recommend it; in my personal rating system, I give it 4 out of 5 "Os" with marks off for the narrow straps.

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